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Letter to a “flying monkey”

I had seen our "meeting again" in my mind's eye so often. You saying "Hey, long time! How are you?" As if nothing happened. I know this day would come. Seeing you, after 7 (?) long years. Long years after our "friendship". I haven't directly spoken to you in these 7 long years. You have … Continue reading Letter to a “flying monkey”

A letter to you, dear new girlfriend of my narcissistic ex.

I haven’t really met you yet. Even though I come by my ex’s house regularly to drop of the kids, we haven’t ever formally been introduced. You “just” were there. And of course, I know who you are - as in: my ex’s next girlfriend. What you probably don’t know is that this “not introducing” … Continue reading A letter to you, dear new girlfriend of my narcissistic ex.

How the narcissists has your friends believe that you are the “crazy” one

People usually are empathic. Or rather empathic. Not narcissistic at any rate. When a narcissist needs his or her prey to stay isolated and get no support, there are a few tricks they need to muster in order to get this done. What better way then to align with the discourse of empathy?   Here's … Continue reading How the narcissists has your friends believe that you are the “crazy” one

Lessons I learned being abused by a narcissist:

there are people who prey on other people. Usually one victim who is isolated and abused while the perpetrator is nice to everybody else. abusers can appear as very nice people abusers can be in “people helping businesses”, personal development, spirituality. They can even be psychotherapists or trauma workers. There are but very few people … Continue reading Lessons I learned being abused by a narcissist:

When the trauma-bond spills over to other relationships

Here I was, in a fight with a friend of mine. She wanted to communicate in a "connecting manner" and yet I felt there was no room for me to really be in the conversation and to problem-solve together. The narcissist I married had been "spiritually inclined" and had often used "peaceful methods" for cornering. … Continue reading When the trauma-bond spills over to other relationships

Intrusive thoughts after narcissistic abuse

Tick Energy vampire Black hole Wolf in sheep's clothing Chameleon Witch   Predator  Masked M/F Many victims of narcissistic abuse get intrusive thoughts that reflect the abuse they have been through. These are trauma-impressions. They run dream-deep. Most victims describe the same or similar images to one another.    

Signs you are coparenting with a narcissist

It often takes victims of narcissistic abuse years and years before they find out they are actually together with a narcissist. They have often visited many a psychologist, talking about “their problems”, when in fact they are suffering from narcissistic victim syndrome (and already quite trauma-bonded). This is of course also true for those coparenting with … Continue reading Signs you are coparenting with a narcissist

10 strategies the narcissist uses to escape responsibility and alter your as well as community perception

In this video post I talk about 10 strategies the narcissist uses to escape obvious obligations. There are more strategies than just this one, but I will address those in a different video. I wanted to stick to the example of alimentation to discuss 10 primary strategies and the creation of a web of confusion, … Continue reading 10 strategies the narcissist uses to escape responsibility and alter your as well as community perception

When I feel unsure: did I all dream this up? am I the narcissist? is he ok after all?

All of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse go through massive self-doubt. This is especially the case when we have been experiencing gas lighting. Intermittent reinforcement - or love bombing amidst ongoing abuse - may have us wonder whether our "guy" or "girl" may really "not be that bad". When our family and friends don't … Continue reading When I feel unsure: did I all dream this up? am I the narcissist? is he ok after all?